Hi Franks, yes those are classic comments from diggers.
However, veg grow well after mild winters and in coastal regions of no frost. Soil does not need to freeze. Digging breaks up the soil’s ecosystem and leads to more pest damage, in my experience. The plants on my no dig beds are healthier than where we have dug or forked.
Compost of good quality has it’s own tilth, but if it’s lumpy then spreading before winter is good, in the hope of some frost tilth.
I aim to cover all my beds before winter but some have say leeks in the way, so we compost them in spring. You can spread compost at any time of year.
Best of luck, don’t let the digging majority intimidate or worry you!